So I was just telling someone that I have a section in my blog for men, but I really haven’t had anything happen that I was inspired to blog about. So I decided today will be my first entry. I’m going to do a little blog experiment on my first situation in long time a with a guy who was interested in me that I didn’t already know from back in the day. I’m not sure if I should call him el guapo negro – because he’s handsome and he’s mixed with latino and black, or Dos Equis, because that’s the beer he bought at the liquor store we met at. I’ll call him Equis. I will attempt to do this without sinking to paralipsis, because if I’m totally open this may just be entertaining. Or it could just fizzle.
Friday I updated my facebook after my encounter with Equis and let you all know that he gave me a much needed ego boost. Here’s the full story. I had a rough week, with work and life and I decided on the way home I deserved a glass – or bottle of wine. My daughter was driving and said she was not going to try to get over 3 lanes on Arapahoe Road in rush hour traffice, just to go to my favorite liquor store! She should know better than to challenge me when I want something. So after pulling into the Cornerstar liquor store, I went in to get some Apothic Red wine, and then I decided I wanted to drink a beer, so I decided to get Singha, the yummy Thai beer I tried on the cruise this summer. I was on the phone with my sister in the beer section and I saw this guy double take when he saw me. So I smiled, grabbed the beer and put it into my basket. He then grabbed his Dos Equis and stopped. It looked like he was waiting for me to get off the phone but my sis was talking and that would have been kind of rude to just hang up. He finally walked away. I got off the phone so I could pay for my weekend treat and get home to imbibe. The cashier accidentally swiped my 6 pack 2x and didn’t have the code to remove the item and neither did any of her coworkers, so I thought to myself, well if he wanted to talk to me it’s not going to happen now for sure! After joking around with the staff over the little faux paus, she finally got the bill right so Icould leave. I started heading to the car and I saw him driving towards me. I just kept walking and looked up so I could ‘find’ my car and not let him know I saw him, but he drove up to me and said “Hi can I talk to you for a quick second?” Before saying yes, a flash of scenes from all the crime shows I watch went through my head and I started wondering what if he’s a psycho? Then I decided I must look familiar to him or something along those lines. So I walked over to his car at a safe distance and said, “What’s up?” He said, “You are so beautiful and I just had to tell you that, and I was wondering if I could get to know you better?” How could I say no to a guy who had the balls to approach me like that? I gave him my number and told him my name, of course he thought I said Tammy but we got the name exchange complete, and I said “Well, call or text if you want to.” Equis said, “Well I’m sure you have plans this weekend, but I will be in touch.” I awkwardly walked off because I was feeling super self conscious all day in what I was wearing; my ass and thighs just seemed like they were way to big in my capris so of all the days to be approached that wouldn’t have been my first choice!
I got in the car and waited for Mic to ask who that was, so instead of having to explain twice, I called my sister back to finish our conversation and told them both the same time about the cute little encounter.
When I got home I had to make the decision as to whether or not I wanted to update my face book status with my ego boost, and I decided to go for it because of the angry ass rant I had published earlier.
I poured myself a beer and got ready to just chill for the night and do a whole lot of nothing. I chatted with the boys for a bit and then lay in bed with Mic discussing her plans for the night.
Much to my surprise, Equis called Friday night. He said “I was just calling so you’d have my number in your phone.” I walked outside and had a quick conversation with him – the boys were playing Wii and it was loud in the apartment. Conversation was good, he is well spoken and seems to have a good personality. He asked, “Can you tell me about yourself, I already know you’re beautiful, what else do you have going on?” I told him I work on computers and I have 4 kids, 2 grown and 2 little ones. That’s the part I dread, I was waiting for the awkward silence or the sound of disappointment because I have kids, and it never came. I told him briefly I’ve been divorced for a little over 2 years, and then said what about you? He’s got no kids, never been married, he’s been in serious monogamous relationships just never married. Said he wanted kids but it just hasn’t been in the life plan. He owned his own business until 2008 when the economy went down the crapper, now he works for ‘the man’ like most of us do, and he loves playing poker.
We ended the conversation after discussing our weekend plans and that was it. Painless.
Before I even had time to process the conversation I got a call from Mr. Unavailable, someone I could write a book about but I won’t, well not today anyway. We discussed a little situation I wanted to chat about and by the end of it I was on my 4th beer.
I reminded myself I needed to add my new friend’s number into my address book, I went in to my call log to save it and in true iPhone fashion as soon as I touched the number it started dialing! So I started to panic and scream “NOOOO!!” as I pressed the end key repeatedly. Then I sent him a text and told him why I called him and hung up, and he said he didn’t have a missed call from me. Freaking awesome. I told him, you never know these days and then tried to smooth the situation over by saying I was glad he called and that it was refreshing to meet someone new. He then said ‘you gotta love technology, it was nice talking to you too and I look forward to doing it again!
We chatted via text for a few seconds more and then I fell asleep.
He called Saturday evening after he was finished playing poker to say hi and see what I was doing, but I was walking into bowling alley with my kids, so I couldn’t talk.
Yesterday he called and we chatted for a while about lots of things, we both love the Luxor hotel in Vegas, and he loves the hot weather and is not a fan of winter, he totally speaks my weather language! He said “The only thing winter is good for is cuddling.” I couldn’t agree more. We started to blame each other for depressing eachother because of talks of cold weather and so we changed the subject to how grateful we both are for an extra day off!
We talked one other time and I asked him if it bothered him I have little guys, and he said not at all, we talked in detail about that, he had great answers, but as I type this I’m starting to wonder, am I being rude for sharing his details? In short, he’s dated women with kids and it was not the kids that caused the issues in the relationships.
I told him that he is the first guy I didn’t know, that was not afraid to just try to talk to me out of the blue with the exception of the guys in the Bahamas and Mexico, and that I am no good at playing the ‘dating game’ or what ever this is, he was very reassuring, about it all. I warned him I’m pretty blunt about most things. Ha! Should I warn him I’m named after a hurricane? Nah, not yet.
I’ll end this by saying we like the same kind of movies, the same comedians, he likes ice cream, and I confessed my love of salty things like chips! So he said one day we’ll have to get some ice cream and a bag of chips and watch a movie, I agreed. We made tentative plans to try to see each other today but we both want to chill before the work week starts, he had a busy weekend, I didn’t but I’m still feeling lazy. We’ll see what happens.
Oh, I have not decided whether or not I’ll tell him he’s possibly the feature story in the Cool K Chronicles. Ha ha let’s see if he lives up to the nick name I decided to give him Equis, which is X in Espanol. Will he be X marks the spot, or X as in STRIKE buddy you are outta here?!